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My ramal fell off in the Gurdwara... How much offence did I cause?

I just got back from the gurdwara. When I was there I picked up a silk bandana from the box available, tied it, and went upstairs. I walked down the hall to the alter and when I bowed my bandana fell off! I stayed like that for a moment because I wasn't sure what to do. When I sat up I scrambled to slip it back on, only to have it fall off again. I didn't want to look up at anyone because I was sure I had offended someone. I managed to get it back on after another try. When I got up to go to the man handing out the prashad, the man smiled at me (he saw the whole thing), but didn't say anything. I almost wish he had said something. I felt awful. Did I offend anyone?

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Permalink Reply by Amarjit Singh on June 1, 2012 at 9:00

WKWF,

The incident that you have narrated above can happen to anyone and i am sure you didn't offend the Sangat present in the Gurdwara. The next time you visit Gurdwara, please be sure that you firmly tie the knot of the Bandana.

So, i think you didn't commit any offence but keep doing Simran on a daily basis.

WKWF.

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Permalink Reply by Harpreet Singh Nanda on June 2, 2012 at 8:27

Nopes you didn't offend anyone. You are in a learning stage + this thing can happen with anyone as Amarjit said. I am sure babaji must be smiling too :)

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Permalink Reply by Danka on June 2, 2012 at 10:42

Not a problem, at all.

We all did this mistake. My son would run into gurudwara and I would be running after him.... so I did forgot on numerous occasion... Don't worry!

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Permalink Reply by Mai Harinder Kaur on June 3, 2012 at 9:10

I have to smile because I am in a constant battle with whatever I have on my head (other than hair). I'm really not sure why, but I am. If it's an ongoing problem, I suggest that you go to your local whatever store and buy a long scarf made of non silky material. They really do stay on better. I bought the red one in my picture for about $5 on sale at my local Fred Meyer.

Anybody who would be offended by such an accident needs to loosen up. Offense should only be taken when offense is intended.

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Permalink Reply by Dalvir on June 9, 2012 at 23:32

Hi Tamara,

No, you did not offend anyone. That sort of thing can happen to anyone at any time :).

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Permalink Reply by Tina Kaur Rallhan on December 3, 2012 at 21:24

I have to laugh as well. It is good that you are aware of the respect of covering your head but even the most seasoned sikh can have mishaps. Try bowing with a 1 year old who is trying to pull your chunni off. During my marriage ceremony I was so scared of the heavy dupatta coming off that I pinned it to my hair. I agree get a scarf it works better.

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Permalink Reply by Danka on December 4, 2012 at 8:24

I had the same case. I had my dupatta tightly wrapped around my wrists during wedding ceremony. I was so afraid to loose......... and show disrespect

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Permalink Reply by Tina Kaur Rallhan on December 4, 2012 at 21:51

I was also super afraid of letting go of the Palla, the cloth during the ceramony. My husband had told me ahead of time that it was terrible. When the Baba Ji came to take it from me, I would not let it go at first, I thought it was a test hehehe