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Beautiful and strong are those daughters of guru sahib Ji!
Suddenly we see them waxing, bleaching??????? Why? When they start going to school or work they take this step?
Why does it make a difference what the world/society thinks of what we look like??? It's our personal choice, who are they to decide for us?
And who are we to listen to them and be as the world wishes us to be?
Some ppl say it's not the looks but what is inside you (naam, simran, love, respect) that matters and which is what guru sahib Ji looks at
My main question/concern is - singhnia (who sajaa dumallay) do all this - should we question them? Why they do it (waxing bleaching) ??? Where does the strength the faith disappear?
I see this happening more and more ..... Feeling disappointed!!!!
At the end of the day, who am I to judge them? No one!
jagdeep pal singh randhawa
Not sure if anyone can really answer any of those questions for those ladies, except they. However I can answer what makes a difference for me and why I follow the guru's rehat. Each aspect of the rehat in my view is tied to a physical and spritual energy within me as part of WaheGuru's creation. The Gurus brought us knowledge of the human state and how to live our lives to fully benefit from that creation and the link of the divine within us. Keeping ones hair in tact is not just following the rule that God created us in that way and we must abide by it just because they say, in my mind it is more complicated than just blind following; there is a difference in our energy and our connection to the divine within us when we keep our hair- I fully believe in this and I have felt this first hand. The Gurus knew the importance of our hair and that as we are born our bodies are created with all the "tools/receptors" necessary to reach WaheGuru. Further I believe there are various health benefits to keeping ones hair. I believe the knowledge of the wholistic relationship of us to the WaheGuru to include our physical form is being lost in Sikhi and young ladies and young men are looking at the rehats as religious rules which have become archeic and may not belong in today's day and age. Additonally the fact that they are changing their appearance further in my mind examplifies that they may not have a spiritual connection to the Guru of any sort. As with other religions, Sikhism is experiencing the same seperation you see in other religions in the world, where the practice becomes outwardly, meaning people go through the motions, they go to Gurdwara because their families do, they dress and say the prayers as they are taught, but are not vested in the experience, they have not connected. Without that connection I don't think you can understand why keeping your hair in tact is important to you and what a difference it makes. Any time you have rules which a person doesn't understand or doesn't see an impact in their life, its that much easier for them to break those rules.
This of course is just my opinion and I hope that I have not offended anyone and if I have my greatest apologies.
sat sri akaal
i'm glad you posted this. this is an issue that is really bothering me too. i am new to sikhism. pressure from society is a huge factor. i haven't gone without shaving because of it. but really, it's a little thing; society. we need to learn that it doesn't matter what others think, but what we believe. the only thing that matters is our own journey through life and our personal relationship to God... even though it is a very hard obstacle to get around.
Sat Sri Akal ji,
Jagdeep ji I think that this question not only applies to girls but boys too....
As I do think myself coming out of this "popular culture" or "fashion world" if you would say in simple words, here's my personal experience.
What I think is that when a person would start realizing guru within themselves he/she automatically becomes so sensitive that one could tell what is good what not or you can say what's godly and what's not
just like that when I started realizing guru within I stopped drinking alchohol nd stuff. Did I had to struggle? or I had to think twice of what i am doing? NO, it just happened. From my friends I would usually get " Did you quit?" No, I just dont feel like doing that... I quit the job that I was doing that time cuz I couldnt wear turban there. my new job I come home late at 11:00 pm at night and I still wake up in Amrit Vela and do my Mul Mantra, Gurmantra and Nitnem ( though I do have to take a nap afterwards ).... and the same applies to the case of "attraction to the opposite gender", "materialistic approach" and so on...... Is it difficult? NO not at all InFact I am not doing it " its all happening it by itself " and I hope soon Guru ji's gonna call me to recieve AMRIT as well.
But when we mix up with society we do get attarcted by the other side and there's a very simple explanation to that as well
and that we can find in newton's law of gravity.....
just like earth attracts any object at height down to itself by the law of gravity same is the case with society be earth and let be a religious person an object at a height above ground.....But there IS another law that if that object reaches at X height above ground gravity cannot catch it. So until one reaches at that X height one has got work to do.
Do NITNEM and let JAP (JAP JI SAHIB) become JAAP(JAAP SAHIB) and JAAP become BAIRAAG (SAVAIYEE) and BAIRAAG become ARDAAS (BENTI CAHUPAI) and let ARDAAS be heard by WAHEGURU and become ABSOLUTE BLISS (ANAND SAHIB) and once one has reached to the state of ANAND it is the mergance within WAHEGURU
@ Ramdeep Kaur ji I think you are absolutely correct in terms of experience and connection. Most of our oldies do follow rehat but some ( NOT ALL ) do lack experience and connection and they are joiust doing that for ritual sake, but those were hard times and I think they handled it very bravely and now times are different more secular and educational (religious) and with much more access and that's why we see young generation with enlightened faith rather than blind faith, which is good.
@ Tamara Marie Rebiffé ji you are right about pressure from society but just go with the flow as you develope your relationship with the Guru you defenitely are going to like his BANA ( outter appearance ) as well. Maybe a few pushes along the flow might increase your speed but it has to come from within.
this small article might help
When Rabindranath Tagore, the great poet who found God within himself, tried to meet a friend on a steamer ship, the friend didn’t recognize him and so wrote him a letter. “We were on the same steamer, but I didn’t find you.” Tagore said, “I was there.” His friend said, “I understand you are now a God-realized man, and I would like to know what your first action was when you became aware of the Oneness in all?” Tagore said, “When I realized the Oneness of all, I threw my shaving kit into the ocean. I gave up my ego and surrendered to nature. I wanted to live in the form that my Creator has given me.”
hope this helps